Meet my new “sister,” Lori Massicot of To 50 & Beyond who is a nutrition and wellness coach. We met over Instagram (@to50andbeyond). Okay, full disclosure: I actually stalked her. She is so adorable and has the best personality (I LOVE her InstaStories – I literally laugh out loud). And one day, she reached out to me! And asked me to be on her podcast! Um, easy answer: Yes! I was floored and so very flattered (it will be published soon). See, sometimes stalking pays off, right?
As we discussed the logistics of the podcast recording, I got to know more about Lori and I was so incredibly impressed by her smarts, grit and tenacity…all revealed in her story below. She’s the real deal. What I love about her story is that she lifted herself from a dark place in her life and now finds has a passion to lift up others. Her determination amazes and inspires me.
Give a synopsis of your decision to become a nutrition and wellness coach.
After years and years of overeating and over-drinking and taking my health for granted, I realized in 2009, at forty-two, that my health was the only thing that mattered in my life. I set out on a journey to renew myself through diet and exercise; it was a slow start, but I stuck with it. I made eating and working out so hard and restrictive for years. I was in a constant state of yo-yo dieting and confusion about what to do to get healthy for good.
I realized that I needed to take time to learn what being in good health meant. I wanted to live a healthy lifestyle, not just lose weight to fit into my jeans. The more I learned, the more I became passionate about helping others make sustainable change in their diet and exercise. I began my coaching career in 2015 when I partnered with Team Beachbody. I have since branched out into my programs where I help women with mindset and nutrition and daily movement, so they feel better in perimenopause and beyond.
Was there a pivotal moment in your decision — something specific that pushed you to take the leap?
Once I lost weight and lost my excuses to take care of myself, I had a gnawing feeling inside of me to do more with my life. I can’t say there was a pivotal "moment," but there were two years that changed my direction in life.
I quit drinking (after 30 years) in 2013 and from that point on, getting sober opened my eyes to all of the possibilities in my life. I’m very driven by the opportunity I have to make a difference in a woman’s life who is struggling to find happiness and good health, for life. I honestly believe that each day is an opportunity to leap into the unknown and challenge myself.Making the career change — lifestyle change — must have taken courage. Where did the courage come from?
My courage comes from fear; fear of regret and ending up on my death bed saying "I wish I had." I watched my mom pass away from cancer within nine months in 2009, and that changed my perspective on life. My mom was courageous and lived her life to the fullest. She hated the fact that I worried so much all of the time over things that I had no control over. Once she passed, I felt her courage and strength come through me, and I purposely set out to honor her through changing my life.
My mom, Carol Jean, is with me every day and keeps me strong and on track even though I’m scared.
What scared you the most? What was the biggest obstacle you needed to overcome?
I was terrified of putting myself out there on social media. I had a very small Facebook, and I was a shy Instagrammer. In 2015, I posted on my Facebook that I was a coach, and after I sent the post, I burst into tears. It has taken me a couple of years to push past the resistance to share my story and my business publically. I think we are all a little scared of being judged when we are authentic and open about our lives and struggles. But, I believe it’s easier to be scared of what others think then it is to be regretful for living in our true-self. Being successful, to me, is doing the things that scare me daily.
The day you went “live” with your website, what did that feel like?
It felt great! I had worked on my WordPress site for almost six months. I didn’t know anything about widgets or plugins, and I was lost when it came to branding, but I figured it out. Telling people that it existed was a weight off my shoulders. I’m proud of it, and I continue to update it as I evolve in coaching others.
What have been the unexpected joys that have come out of wellness coaching?
The fact that I get to be part of a transformation in a woman’s life is very special to me. I watch women start a program lacking confidence in themselves and their ability to change. Once a gal commits to bettering herself and practices consistency in better eating habits, positive mindset, and daily movement, her life changes. I get to see and feel this transformation, and it lights me up!
What was something you expected to happen — a feeling or circumstance — that didn’t?
I thought that I would find more support and encouragement from my closest friends and family. When I went public with my sobriety and my coaching business, I expected to hear from those closest to me. I know now that that was my expectation, and has nothing to do with anyone else or their love for me.
I have learned a valuable lesson in sticking with something you love even though you feel alone in your mission. Keep going and don’t take anything personally.
What advice would you give to someone else who wants to change her life, start something new, follow their passion, and/navigate their next chapter?
GO FOR IT! I know how scary it is, but I also know that being scared is the catalyst for change. Take advantage of every fear you have because you are alive today, and you are the youngest you will ever be again. Write your goals down on paper and work backward on how you are going to reach your outcome. Pondering is much harder than doing, sisters, and the process is where all the fun happens. The world is your oyster, crack it open and reinvent yourself, and your life!
What would you want your epitaph to read? How do you want people to remember you?
Oh gosh, this is a hard one, I feel like I just started living. I want people to remember that I lived life to my fullest potential, out loud, and I had a hell of a ride! I want my son to remember me as a strong woman who didn’t give up on what mattered to her, and let go of things that didn’t. The quote "She believed she could so she did" is one of my favorites.
What do you think you are becoming?
I’m becoming the person I was always meant to be; strong, confident, and free from regret and shame. A woman at fifty who feels better than she did at thirty and having fun in an imperfect life. I was always worried about the future; now I’m focused on the present and excited for my life!